Doubts and certainties

Questions and Answers

In relation to my Counseling, Coaching and Mentoring services

Part consultant, part motivational speaker, part therapist, part what would be a friend, and some even call me a spiritual guide. I work with managers, entrepreneurs and all kinds of people, helping them define and achieve their goals and solve their problems: both professional and personal or, more often, both. I work at a rational, functional, emotional, cognitive, behavioral, existential and spiritual level.

I can be of support to you in various areas of your life. Professionally, I can help you focus on your career and promote yourself more effectively. Personally, I can help you improve your relationships with other people, with yourself and improve your general well-being. Through working together, you can find how to live a more balanced and satisfying life.

An article in the “Public Management Journal ” revealed a study in which traditional training alone was compared with other types of facilitation combined with “classical” training. The study showed that training alone increased productivity by 22.4%, while training combined with the support of other forms of weekly facilitation increased productivity by 88%.

Here is why:

1) Responsibility. Most facilitators have three or four sessions a month with their clients. Think about it, if you work out with a personal trainer at the gym, you usually work a lot harder than on your own. Clients take bigger actions, set more ambitious goals, and think big when working with an experienced facilitator.

2) Experience. A trained facilitator knows how to help you set the right goals and structure your personal and professional life to achieve greater productivity with less effort. You will achieve more in less time with the contribution of a good facilitator by your side.

3) Delivery. An experienced facilitator knows how to use the right words so that you are naturally motivated. Generally, this type of facilitation works best with a weekly session so that you have time to integrate new ways of thinking and acting each week toward your goals. Most of the process is done by phone, or video calls, and these usually last from half an hour to an hour. The experience is challenging and uplifting.

4) Speed. Most people find that things start to happen very quickly after hiring a facilitator who acts as a catalyst for change.

Well, I think that this question has been asked of almost everyone, and although the answer is usually always the same: “there are as many approaches as counselors, coaches, mentors, therapists, etc., how they themselves, that is, like the saying “Each master employes his own ways and methods to do things” and it is also true that there are as many approaches as there are people, since each client requires their own approach.

It also seems clear that fashion today dictates what to do. I personally refuse, and yes, although my approach is clearly contextual, existential and transdisciplinary, I use a new methodology created by me that integrates knowledge, tools, techniques and skills that come from other approaches and disciplines (functional, cognitive, transformational, ontological , emotional, essential, rational, dialogic, behavioral, NLP, Focusing, Mindfulness, PEA, GST, Complexity Sciences, etc., and of course, some philosophy as well) to achieve the best results: strategic solutions, tactics and practices, goal orientation, strengthening strengths, leadership personal, independence, expansion of consciousness and broadening of perspective.

It is quite different and very effective.

Consultancy. At heart my method can be considered a form of consulting. However, consulting is often based on information and experience. For example, you can hire a consultant to help your company with a specific problem. In which case, you would expect your consultant to have knowledge and experience in that particular area. I, on the other hand, may or may not have a background or experience in your professional field. My job is like that of a life specialist, a veteran to help you develop all areas of your professional and personal life. Unlike many consultants who come up with a solution and let you implement it, I’ll stay with you to help you integrate the changes, new skills, and goals to make sure they really happen. This is one of the reasons why the method is so effective: it is one thing to have the information and quite another to make the change. And this is exactly the reason why self-help often doesn’t work.

Therapy. My approach goes beyond therapy, although we do work on problems or traumas from the past. Of course, not as a psychologist or psychotherapist, but as a counselor. If you start the process with me and have not resolved a previous problem, it is very likely that we will have to solve the problem first. It is very common for unresolved trauma to prevent us from getting what we want in our lives. We focus on the present and goals for the future, without forgetting your life history. Most of my clients are healthy and successful people who may be a bit stuck or just want to make a big change in their lives and want the support of their own counselor, coach, or personal mentor to do so.

Sports. My work often includes principles of sports coaching, such as being the best you can, doing more than you think you can, working as a team, going for the goal, etc. But unlike sports training, in my work I do not it’s about competing against others. I will simply help you win in your own game in your own life!

Best friend. It’s wonderful to have a best friend or two or three. But is your best friend an objective professional you can trust to advise you on the most important aspects of your life or business? Sometimes our friends cannot tell us the truth as much as they would like because they don’t want to risk losing the friendship. For my part I will never be afraid to tell you the truth and I am ready to be fired at any time. Why not have a best friend and a counselor, coach and mentor?

We focus where the client wants us to focus. His goals are my goals, although I may have some radical suggestions on how to reach them more quickly. Sometimes, to be more successful in business and life in general, you need to do personal work. So don’t be surprised if you get some personal reviews, questionnaires and excercises!

Between one and three months. Although on average, most people find that work is more beneficial than they thought and they stay longer than they initially anticipated. Many colleagues ask for a three- to six-month commitment, but they usually allow you to stop immediately if the process isn’t working for you. Others may ask you to sign a contract or agreement. This is fine, however, in EXISTENTiam you can advance month by month for as long as it works for you. I will never force you to stay (unless you opt for a specific program) in a fixed time frame for the process.
This does not apply to corporate contracts that may be for a specific period or project and are negotiated on a case-by-case basis.

It all depends. On the one hand, your needs, and of course, your possibilities. As with many other professionals (counselors, coaches and mentors) who work with individuals, the investment is between 200 and 600 Euros per month for a session of 30 to 90 minutes two, three or four times a month. In some cases it is 1 monthly session with more independent work from my clients. Also comment that you have a range of specific programs starting at 50 euros, up to 1200 per month.

However, depending on the process and the goal, you can choose between different options. Either single sessions, or isolated, type containment sessions, or a more structured process to carry it out over a longer period of time. The latter has some advantages, among which the economy of scale stands out, that is, the process becomes more affordable due to the commitment by both parties. What I always recommend is to first do a good introspection and analysis to find out the impact, the magnitude and the possibilities of the process.

A very important factor to take into account, and which unfortunately is often not considered, is the so-called “cost of opportunity “, or “suffering cost” of doing nothing about it, both on a personal, emotional and professional level, as well as economic losses. For this reason, more than “cost”, I see an investment in the processes, both in the short, and in the medium and long term.

Depending on your needs and priorities in the following:

Establish and achieve goals and objectives.

Planning: business, career and life.

Break down blocks and fears.

Organize and order thoughts and emotions.

Financial security and independence.

Balance of personal and professional life.

Make key decisions and strategize for success.

Authentic and powerful communication.

Creation of trouble-free zone.

Finding the ideal career / job or business.

Break the routine.

Live an ideal life.

Identify passions and core values.

Meet personal and emotional needs.

Have much more time to enjoy life.

Playing and having adventures everything is much more fun!

And much much more…